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Wednesday, March 5, 2014

Excitations, Revelations, and Observations oh my!

There are 3 scary realities I face as I prep to revisit the US in two weeks:

#1: I am excited/scared for the counter culture shock

     (seeing friends and family and just being in the US)

#2: A single ride on New York City's MTA costs about the same 
     as a dinner feast for most Indian families.

#3: Beards shed like a dog's hair.


      
Addendum: mine has has created tumbleweeds that blow across my white marble floor.


Thursday, February 20, 2014

Happiness

"Would you rather be right or happy?" - Buddha

I have never liked debate based on opinion 
Only on facts
Debate based on opinion makes me shut down 
People get angry and emotional
It is personal
Opinions are personal
That is your belief
Period 
And with it comes the scars of your past
involving emotions 
and the belief in how it made you feel
Cue yelling and me turtling in my shell
You can debate facts
I don't think you can debate belief
You can't debate somebody's feelings
Its how they feel
Its individual
But I know you can effect beliefs 
by exposure to an experience that may prove the contrary is possible 
And in turn, this will evoke an emotion
A different emotion
Or at least plant the seed of change
that may show the fruit of your sharing tomorrow or 10 years from now 
And the point to sharing that experience isn't to make me think that I am right
Because there isn't any right or wrong in life
Everything just is
And sharing makes me happy
because I was able to show why I felt the way I did
if at least for a moment
I shared a bit of my soul
And now maybe that person has the possibility of feeling that way 
of looking at life from a different angle
and understanding me better
And that makes me happy
Because I have lived 
through storytelling
which is also how I learned about Happiness


Happiness.

(I capitalize it because I believe it to be a proper noun)
Happiness has been something I have explored since a young age
And my parents encouraged me to find it
I liked to touch things 
I am a very tactile person
I loved the taste of food in my mouth and would do anything to get it 
Ergo, I ate my first helping of food as fast as I could to get the second helping ASAP
I liked to dance around even if nobody else heard the music
I liked to push myself to do ridiculous things
At age 5, to the fright of my mother, I used to pull myself up the fireman's pole on the playground 
with only my arms 
and I would also scurry to reach the peak of any tree I could find 
simply to be apart of the sky
Then I would inevitably get stuck
and then have to gain the courage from within to find a way back down
(This is why I always wanted to be the squirrels in the Disney movie "Sword In The Stone")
I would say "Hello" to strangers.
Still do. (Cue people making odd expressions on the streets of Pune) 
I still do most of those things in fact
if not all
(this includes hugging old aunties I have just met)
And to this day I always try to be happy 
No matter what
It is my life's credo
If it makes me unhappy I don't do it
This is why I had happiness tattooed on my thigh in 9 colors 
to remind myself
Constantly
Throughout it all, I try remember that  
I am beautiful just the way I am 

cause I forget sometimes
as do I think we all do.
And if I'm not happy,
truly happy,
then why is it?
There is a reason. 

There is a huge debate among people that you shouldn't have to be happy at work, 

or do what makes you happy, 
but simply do things to get by 
You should always have a back up plan
And I think it's a double edged sword
Because You will almost always fall back on that back up plan
Cause Life is hard
So then we think that having the newest IPhone, a flashy car, the perfect relationship
(fill in with your choice word)
will make us happy
or that we can make other people happy 
But now here are the scientific facts in how Happiness breaks down...





Happiness
External Sources = 10%
Internal Sources = 90%



It literally all comes from inside you. 
And it is what primarily effects your productivity DIRECTLY. 
This is probably a surprise to some (who will also still contest it and now roll their eyes), 
those who think you have to sit in the quagmire in order to see results
And to others, they go DZUH! 

You are beautiful just the way you are
You are enough
And You are as happy as you make up your mind to be
So I hope you let your light shine
You are the only one in control of it being hidden under a bushel
You control your own happiness

And that is what I am teaching today in class.

Tuesday, February 18, 2014

The Use of Erasers


A STORY RETOLD BY A STUDENT THIS WEEK

(POI: This could be fact or fiction. Either way, I liked it.)

Teacher: Erasers are meant for those who make mistakes. 

A small hand shot in the air accompanied by a retort...

Student: No Didi, erasers are meant for those who are willing to correct their mistakes. 

Sunday, February 16, 2014

The Wisdom of Adesh the Private Detective

We begin each class with 3 minutes of meditation and a sharing circle.
One day this week we were discussing a Guatam Buddha quote...

"Holding onto your anger 
is like grasping a burning coal 
with an intent to throw it at someone else;
you are the one that gets burned."

We talked about how you can't hold onto things (i.e. grudges) because it ultimately makes you sick (in all it's different incarnations).  You just have to forgive and move on, otherwise it will consume you. And, I shared that most of the time when someone does something harmful to you it actually has nothing to do with you. In reality, we all have our own baggage and it causes us to react in the present by simply taking it out on ourselves and others. But also, before we blame others we should look at our own actions and what we could have done differently. This in turn effects our outlook on life, our mood, and how we live. 

YOUR ATTITUDE + YOUR CHOICES = YOUR LIFE

"BE THE CHANGE TO SEE THE CHANGE" right?

So then an arm shot up and Adesh chimed in. 
Adesh reminds me a little of myself at age 11:  
he's physically smaller than his peers, 
too smart for his own good, 
wants to be a Detective, 
is curious about everything, 
and his mind moves faster than his mouth can. 

"When you point at somebody else, 
 there are also three fingers pointing back at you."

I had never heard this before, and quickly wrote it down. 
These kids are like philosophical sponges! 
Cue a song from one of my favorite musicals "INTO THE WOODS"

"Careful the things you say, children will listen. 
Careful the things you do, children will see and learn."

Later that night I was told one of our PALs about what happened and he then taught me another version.

POINT OF REFERENCE: PALs are TFI Teaching Fellows that donate their time to teach in MAYA. (To me, they are saints.) 

In Indonesia nobody points. 
Instead, they hold their hand in a fist with the thumb over top as they gesture. 
This is called "The Thumb of Power" in American Politics.  



Praveen, said PAL and first year fellow, continued....

"In that case, you are now pointing 4 fingers back at yourself."

This reminded me of one of my favorite old adages...

"Let He Who Hath No Sin Cast The First Stone."

So needless to say...
Politics, self accountability, and philosophy are alive and well at MAYA rehearsal. 


Friday, February 14, 2014

A love letter to all the women I have ever loved or am loving or that love me or are yet to...Happy Valentines Day!




Beauty is to be held
Beauty is bare-faced
Beauty makes things Beautiful
Beautiful is more than skin deep
Beautiful is a way of speaking
Beautiful is strong minded yet tender
Beautiful is curious
Beautiful is ageless
Beautiful is sleepless nights spent talking
Beautiful is dancing freely
Beautiful is laughter
Beautiful is wholesome
Beautiful is naughty
Beautiful is a friend
Beautiful is a woman
Beautiful is you
And you are loved

Thursday, February 13, 2014

The Tribe

So I've had a hard time thinking about what to write on this blog. 
I get home or even sit down during the day after morning coffee, 
and don't know where to begin recounting adventures. 
So I'm going to start sharing single stories and vocab.  

Todays word: "Bhaiya" 

It means: BIG BROTHER
Last Sunday, after rehearsal, I took a rickshaw ride home as normal. I have started bringing kids with me so that I can drop off en route and they don't have to take the bus. This saves their families money, gets kids home faster, makes sure girls aren't traveling alone (a female is raped every 20 minutes in India), and gives us quality time to bond and be silly. So this particular Sunday, per normal, we loaded the rickshaw up like a clown car. I'm talking myself plus 5 kids: Chaitrali, her brother (whose name I can never remember so I call him Lil Man), Shussti, Deepak, and Shlok. This is nothing considering I've seen 8-10 traveling in a Rickie before.

Shussti (a 4th grader that's gone up 4 academic grade levels in 6 months and who makes me cry with her now voluntary sage wisdom instead being more or less mute) was sitting behind me where the luggage usually goes, Chaitrali stood while her little brother was sitting on my lap, and Shlok and Deepak were busy playing a video game on my phone. We were laughing and singing amid me describing what it is like living in Paris: the food, the history of the Eiffel Tower, what a World's Fair is, how there are in fact 2 Statues of Liberty, and what gothic architecture is. 

Point of reference: The kids are about as open as it comes on a daily basis. If you got a haircut they don't like, you no longer look nice. If you've gained weight, they asked "what's happened?" in shock. And also, like kids do, they ask questions they already know the answer to see what you will say. Along those lines, the kids also comment on my beard experiment on a daily basis. When I don't trim it huge swatches of white hair appear and I am also constantly stroking my chin like a Wizard when I think, which they mimic. Most people in communities think I'm either a wrestler in the WWE or the guy from the movie "300." And my favorite is "You look like Hero." Because of it, I also get a look dismay when I wear my glasses because I "look like Uncle" which is an old man. Weird opposites....

So Chaitrali's little brother thinks of me like a big brother. Both their parents died in the last couple years and they live with some pretty heinous family. He isn't even apart of "Maya," but when he comes I make sure he gets some Bro Love because he needs it. We draw and laugh and he likes to climb on me. Or, I swing him around, which he loves.

This is when I began to sense Lil Man examining my face in my perepheral vision.


And then he looked perplexed. He then reached and grabbed a tuff of my hair gently. "Bhaiya what's that?" "What's what little man?" I responded. "Can I?"-asking if he could pull it, to which I nodded. He held up a tiny white hair with mouth agape and eyes sparkling with question. "Ah. What does it look like?" This is my usual reaction to a question that Im certain they know the answer to. "It's white." Cue the William Shatner pause with a tilted head...."Why?" I cycled through 5 witty answers... "Bhaiya is old and has lived through a lot of crazy adventures. It will happen to you too one day." The kiddo nodded with a tinge of the classic Indian head wobble and then held the hair up on his finger for me to blow off. I closed my eyes and made a wish that my whole rickshaw full of kids transcended their living situation to help change India. I then blew it off into the wind shooting past the rickshaw and he went to work.

I didn't pay much attention because Shussti started teaching me some more basic Hindi (which I learned is actually a mixture of Hindi and Marati), but as we reached a stoplight I was tapped on the shoulder. I turned to find he had plucked a score of white hairs off my head. He held them gently in the palms of his tiny hands like a precious piece of china. He gave an ear to ear grin...                                      

"Better."                                                                                                                                        

Then he turned and blew them away into the wind, like the worries of my past were being given back to the wind that brought them into my life. Seconds later my little angels went bounding off into the slum community that surrounds their school with a chorus of I LOVE YOUs fading off into the distance. I turned to sit down and the rickshaw driver smiled as we sped away...  

"They are your kids."  


It was true. They call me the biggest MAYA kid, but they are really like my kids. I would do anything for them. And, I they would do the same. 

I am now kin. I am family. And I am a safe harbor for them. I am being groomed and loved by the very kids I myself am grooming and loving. And we take care of each other...maybe this is why I unconsciously bring bananas for those kids that had no breakfast? Puna is now my Jungle and I am the SilverBack of the tribe called MAYA.


OOh OOh OOh AAh AAh! 


(Cue me beating my always semi unbuttoned hairy Gorila chest as I gaze to the sky)

I have arrived. I am one with the tribe. 


Today's Sage-like-Wisdom from a "MAYA" kid

"Wrong is still wrong even when everyone is doing it."

-Homi, 11 years old

Tuesday, February 4, 2014

Adios Perfecto

There's something I want to discuss
A single word...
The word “perfect”

To be honest 
I don’t actually know what the word means
Nor do I have any idea how it could ever be applied to art
But people try to...
I think its a word that's been implanted in our minds
like a poisonous seed
By people that were frightened by it
when it was planted in them

“Perfect” is a word that I hear
used a lot by students and teachers alike
Its a concept that's been drilled into everyone
through education and society as a whole
If I remembered hearing it from my family during childhood
it wouldn't be so odd

But I don’t remember it
because they didn't use it
They always encouraged me to be the best I could be!

I only remember hearing "perfect" spouted from other adults
never holding themselves or their kids to the same high standards
It didn't make sense to me
This is what gave me an ulcer at age 9
I wasn't allowed to figure out how to be happy myself
because I had to make other people happy
I was a slave
I was sick almost every day for a year straight
Doubled over in gut wrenching pain
This was a paradox to me
The people that were supposed to love me for who I was
In School
In Church
In Town
Were trying to control me by putting their fear in me
How can you develop trust when there is fear?
How can you develop friendships?
I then questioned why hypocrisy existed
in those I was supposed to look up to
Those I was supposed to trust
I always questioned
And that's when I got in trouble
Still do
And that is why I had a hard time trusting authority
Still do
But I never want any of our kids to ever have to go through that

So how do you feel about the word “perfect?”
Did your parents ever tell you to be “perfect"as a kid?
How did it make you feel then?
And do you think “perfection” exists?
Because I don’t
And something tells me you don’t either

I think it may exist for a split moment
on a multiple choice quiz
with tiny bubbles
that one can fill in with a dull No. 2 pencil
which then is graded by a machine
And if you are able to fill in the right amount of bubbles
in the right order
then
and only then
have you reached “perfection.”
Hooray!
That is also how education and personal worth is gauged until we graduate college 

which may be why our 20’s are such a crazy roller coaster ride of "figuring it out"

Why?
Because there are no multiple choice answers in life 
None
So why assess human worth
with a list of marked boxes corresponding to attributes

like describing Slaves on an auction block?

There are only empty paragraphs in life which you have to fill 

in freehand
in block print or in cursive  

Your interpretation of this life is waiting to be spelled out…
That's reality
And if we all have our own interpretation of reality
then how can anything ever be perfect
if it is also being judged by someone else
that has their own interpretation?
Because in turn
that is not even reality
They are all interpretations of interpretations of the reality
So in reality
how can “perfection” exist?

“Perfection” is not a naturally occurring item in nature
Ever
Everything is flawed
It is a wonder that anything actually functions
But that is also the beauty of it all
The very definition of “perfect” is 


FINISHED 
COMPLETE 
FLAWLESS
 

I am not any of those words
nor would I call myself "perfect" in any form
I don’t think you would call yourself any of those things either
At least I hope not

Love is not perfect
Democracy is not “perfect”
because it is carried out by homosapians
Who are not “perfect"
So when we attempt to hold our kids up to this ideal of “perfection”
I think we then again become no better than those
that physically abuse them
that verbally abuse them
that sexually abuse them
that oppress them on a daily basis
There in our mission statement in life is violated
We have created inequity
We have created inequality

Why?

Because the word “perfect” creates a constant less than mentality
It predates the 19th century birth of the Prussian factory school setting:
uniformity
productivity (input vs. output)
and oppression.
DO EXACTLY WHAT I TELL YOU
NO QUESTIONS
Copy
Paste

By using the word “perfect”     

we become the dominator 
and the kids 
the oppressed
It forces a soul to strive for something that is never attainable
creating a constant feeling of neverending failure

By using the word
That also means that we will constantly be disappointed
We will never get what we want
Ever
So "Perfect" isn't possible
By using the word
everyone involved becomes miserable and defensive

No wonder our societies are continuously at war
No wonder "I" must have what "they" have
No wonder we have to be better than everyone else in everything
"Perfect" is an offensive word
It attacks
and leaves no room to feel and respond
We aren't allowed to
We just have to do
To be
"Perfect"
So we go on the defensive
to try to feel
more than less than
By making others
less than

But...

we can only be the best we can be
in any given moment
Maybe ...
I slept horribly last night
Maybe ...
my loved one made me feel less than awesome as I walked out the front door
Maybe ...
I feel fat today
Maybe ...
I have the flu
Maybe ...
I feel downright fucking lonely

Whatever the case may be
I think having the Courage and the Resilience
(I capitalize them because I believe them to be proper nouns)
to respond positively in the given moment

as opposed to reacting from scar tissue dictated by the past
is as good as it gets
thats wisdom
Also by admitting our faults openly
and learning from each other
together
in truth
is when I feel my fullest

Is this what it means to be human?
Maybe
Respecting our very own humanity and in turn witness to the humanity around us?
Everyone acknowledging everyone’s imperfection?
that is compassion

Can you imagine a world like that?

If we accept our faults
and those of others
then maybe we have actually reached “perfection”
Check it out!
The word IMPERFECT is actually I’M PERFECT
And maybe if everyone acknowledged this paradox in our society
we would all be better off
the constant infinite cycle of change

thats all there is
breath
keep moving
Otherwise
we are dead and finished

Karma means “action”…
and its eternal
The Neverending Story!
“Perfection” is “inaction”
because the loop has been
signed
sealed
delivered
and placed on the shelf
like a tacky knick knack.
I don’t want to acquire dust like some archaic ideal
I yearn to actively make myself and the world a better place than I found it
That is the paradox of life
The dance
Optimists take one step forward to take one back

We have to keep moving
with utter resilience
to make ourselves better
learning from our mistakes
And that in turn
will make everyone else better around us
So it starts with you
Will you join me in getting rid of the word “perfect?”
Let's see what it does
Can you imagine the change it could make
In foreign affairs
In business
In our fellow wo man
and in our kids?
I think it may help change everything we think we know
Our reality
for the better
But we'll never know
unless we try

Tuesday, January 21, 2014

The 7 Habits of an Effective Teen



This is the newest song by my pals over at HIPHOPSAVESLIVES.org
The 7 Habits of an Effective Teen

YANKEE DOODLE DANDY



Sometimes, amid dodging crazy afternoon Pune traffic, 
you are reminded of home by a symphony of tiny cherubim voices.

Wisdom from a 14 year old...


Tuesday, December 24, 2013

Merry Christmas!


So for my Christmas post I thought it suiting that I talk about how I spent Diwali THE CELEBRATION OF LIGHTS, an Indian holiday around Halloween. Because, it is what Hindus would call their equivalent to our Christmas holiday. (though in recent years it has become more about lighting off fire crackers {which is fueled by the same commercial machine here that does July 4th} rather than the traditional methods of lighting small Dias (lights/candles) and having togetherness.

Much like Christmas, there are days of celebrations leading up to the BIG DAY (cue the 12 days of Christmas Indian style). So, on this day Kelcie, Danielle, Allie (ASTEP volunteers) and I all journeyed to the home of one of our kids: Yash. Please enjoy this picture of him dressed as The Tribal Queen, a Social Emotional exercise we did with the kids during our Diwali retreat where they have to dress up guys like the Tribal Queen using 17 found objects.

 
Yash is 13. He once told me he wants to be big and happy like the Buddha. I, however, call him ReRun because he is always dancing and smiling. He loves music, hip hop dancing, and everything in between. He is mildly attempting to learn how to play the guitar and the piano all at the same time--a young jack-of-all-trades and master of none if you will…though he is a genius pop and lock-er. And, he is insanely outgoing and filled with nothing but love.

Yash lives alone with his father in a single sun-filled room that acts as a rooftop apartment.  We arrived to breakfast with his papa—who is an engineer and a truly proud papa at that!  His wife died when Yash was only 3, and spends a lot of time away for work.  He actually started crying when we talked about how he wants the best for Yash but its been hard without a mama around. And, that he was glad that Yash had another man to be his mentor. I then told him my new nickname of “Dadi Vadi Ma,” which means THE BEARDED MOTHER, and that I would do the best I could to pick up the slack. (cue grown men crying together talking about love and loss). 

Yash then taught the ladies how to play Cricket, we took a photoshoot, and we met the extended family! A man (whom I will call UNCLE) and his daughter live below Yash’s pad, and UNCLE has become a literal Uncle to Yash. His wife also died when his children were young, and so he helps take care of Yash when his dad is away.  He and Yash’s dad also help each other in times of lonliness and in strife. That is when we learned of Yash’s nickname: Ladoo. This is a sweet ball of heaven that is served during Diwali. It is round and full of goodness, much like Yash. And, I think over the course of the day I had close to 12 ladoos. When I can’t stuff myself on my Aunt Jo’s apple crisp for the holidays, the ladoo is not a bad replacement (spare the stomach ache).


We then met Yash's gang! Literally…it reminded me of Stand By Me. The gang consisted of about 5-6 boys from throughout their beautiful tree shaded neighborhood. We spent the next couple hours going from house to house, meeting their families and seeing the Rangoli (sand art) that each had made for the festivities, as well as eating MORE sweets. Along the way, we also saw some awesome sand castle like things that are also made during Diwali. But, these castles are actually forts, or castles. Why you may ask?

They are to commemorate Shivaji. He is a Maharastran Folk Hero. Back in the 1500’s a young spry 15 year old saw a huge disparity in the fact that the Moguls were suppressing the people of Maharastra unjustly, and thought it time to reclaim their independence. There were more of them then there were of the Moguls, who lived very far away. But, he also saw the flaw in the fact he was only 15-years-old. So, he shared his dream of freedom with his friends. They then went on scouting missions to all the surrounding forts and strongholds of the Moguls to devise a plan. Upon doing so, they realized that each fort was poorly staffed though in geographically defensive key points seeing as how most of them were on hilltops and surrounded by amazing gulleys or moats. So, he and his friends became a band of merry men, and he Robin Hood. They started a revolution by talking to the poor people working in the forts. And soon, they were being snuck in at night with the aid of these insiders, and slowly reclaimed all the forts in all of Maharastra. Pretty rad right? The possibilities of a creative 15 year old are never for naught!!! So to celebrate the occasion, young boys now build sand castle forts to commemorate.

We then ate an HUGE amazing lunch that consisted of my new favorite dish: Pani Puri. It is like a sweet and spicy cinnamon/fruit nut filled quesadilla that you dip in an unknown sauce. IT WAS AWESOME!!!!! During the lunch, we discussed all the projects we have been working on in Maya, what changes they have seen with Yash (he apparently used to have discipline issues though he is one of our best leaders), and in how we could better the country of India. I felt like I was home. As we left, I felt like I had just had a holiday with my family back home. And, I will no doubt go back soon. Here is another reason why…

In Indian culture the men are insanely affectionate with each other. In US culture, people would assume they are gay. (This is also why during my first trip to India I wanted to create a photomontage to a retitled song from LEGALLY BLONDE called IS HE GAY OR IS HE INDIAN). But this is not the case. There most assuredly is a high percentage of closeted homosexuals here (the recent passing of Amendment 377 is case in point why), but it is more unabashed love than sexual. I see it amongst friends, kids with teachers, uncles and brothers, everybody.  So, as we explored Yash’s neighborhood with the kids running ahead, Yash’s dad slowly put his hand in mine. It made me take pause for a second before I realized what was happening. There we were swinging our entwined hands as I discovered and was shown his family’s community.  I had been accepted and loved despite my differences. To me- that is what family and the holidays are all about.

Happy Yule to you and yours!

Making of MAYA THE MUSICAL part 3

Making of MAYA THE MUSICAL part 2

Making of MAYA THE MUSICAL part 1

Monday, December 16, 2013

My kiddos and ASTEP in Nimo Patel's new music video "GRATEFUL"



Written and produced by  Nimo Patel and  Daniel Nahmod.
Video from KarmaTube
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I apologize friends and family, but there has simply been too much stuff in the past two months to possibly encompass it all in one post. Whether it was spending Diwali with my student Yash’s family/community, the Vicand retreat where we taught the kids how to swim every morning, spending an entire day at a Nunnery cooking in service as the lone male among an army of Indian nuns who then gifted me crystals that wash up on their grounds when it rains, teaching Arts Integration workshops while having the kids perform at the “inspirED” conference in Hyderabad, the honor of going to a Parsi Navjote, spending a week of AWESOMENESS in Ahmedabad at the MOVED BY LOVE retreat and navigating the National Gandhi Ashram/Manhav Satna/Toilet Café, attempting to peacemeal a Thanksgiving feast at The Hard Rock Café out of side dishes while a Bryan Adam tribute band blared in the background, or recording a song with Nimo Patel and Chad Harper thanking our collective families worldwide…this would be a typical Nick Dalton tome. So instead, out of gratitude for those that have touched my life these past two months, I am going to list some cool cats I met and the AMAZING projects they work on, as well as some awesome videos that either feature friends/my kiddos or have inspired me. I hope you enjoy them and have a wonderful holiday!

On a personal note: I am here on out going to write every week. SERIOUSLY!

Nimo Patel from EMPTY HANDS MUSIC
Chad  Harper from HIP HOP SAVES LIVES
MAM Films
Nipun Mehta from SERVICE SPACE
Ishwar and Jayesh Patel (google them)
Jay Altman of FirstLine Schools in New Orleans 
EASTMAN Dance Company in Finland 

Peace Love and Fruitcake,
Nick

Wednesday, December 11, 2013

A teaser to a long overdo update....

"Language is based on gift giving. This hypothesis breaks through the taboo against using nurturing (gift giving) as the model for other kinds of human activity and it has important consequences.

If language is based on nurturing, and if thinking is at least partially based on language, then thinking is at least partially based on nurturing.

However, thinking can also be based directly on non linguistic nurturing (ending and receiving messages), which is a commonplace way of describing chemical and hormonal interactions in the body viewed in terms of less intentional giving and receiving.

If we view language as gift giving transposed onto a verbal level, and if we accept the idea that it was language that made humans evolve, we could then come to the conclusion that it was the gift giving aspect of language, not just the capacity for abstraction, that caused our leap forward.

This conclusion could lead us to think that gift giving and receiving could be the way forward for humanity to evolve beyond its present dancer and distress.

Indeed we could begin to take nurturing, as nurturing IS the creative norm. And {we could then} recognize exchange as the distortion which is causing {our} de-evolution and a danger to the human species as well as all other species on the planet."

-Genevieve Vaughan



Tuesday, October 29, 2013

Designs, and Festivals, and Free Hugs oh my!!!!!!


So I was inspired to finally write tonight, after returning home from a community concert of the old MGM movie and Golden Age of Musical HIGHLIGHTS titled “A Grand Night For Singing.” We took our kiddos (the 20 that showed up today) and bussed over to the St. Vincent’s High School where we brought the mean age of the room down a few generations. But I felt right at home tapping along as the Chamber Choir sang HELLO DOLLY, BEGIN THE BEGUINE, and TEA FOR TWO. It was a great procedure in patience, compassion, and more patience for the students.  We debriefed afterwards on the bus, where some admitted being bored (some asked to leave mid concert), about decorum, how we perform, etc…This was the first exposure most of them had ever had to a formal concert. And having sat on the floor right in front of the risers, there was nothing we missed.
My favorite was the little old lady in front of the choir that was blind as a bat and had to be helped on stage. But, she sang with the fully memorized fervor of Pavarotti! With her coke bottle glasses and little bob haircut, her marble colored music folder never even opened. And upon their 4th encore, which was a cool instrumental number that sounded akin to the 70’s lounge suite arrangements from the rest of the evening, she asked “We’re doing another? Pffffff..” Before that, my highlight had been explaining what PARIS is and what J’DORE means to the 9 year-old next to me whom I have nick named Tiny. In May she only wore golden elaborate frocks and barely spoke, but now she is a fiery tomboy that will answer any question you ask. What a difference a few months make….
Lets back this up though…So the last month has been an epic odyssey, and I feel like I am finally finding a rhythm. Part of that is intentionally finding a life outside the 12 hour days: I saw some stand up comics last week who I then improved with afterward, went to a HUGE multi-stage music festival called NH7, and I started going to the weekly jazz night at my favorite little bungalow restaurant. My lady volunteer army of ASTEPers arrived, and half have already left again. We have successfully integrated the ARTS into the curriculum in schools, though we are dealing with some serious cultural issues as far as our CHILD PROTECTION policy goes. I now have a SECOND phone, thanks to forgetting mine in a rickshaw between meetings (cue grandma laughing). And, there is a good chance that I will get wireless internet in my apartment soon. (cue me praying to any god of any faith that will listen on this front)
I have talked to my parents once, my brother once on a much needed 2 hour , more or less disappeared from all social media (spare some random political postings that I am torn about), and have days where I feel COMPLETELY like I live on the other side of the world from most of what my life has been thus far. And as my brother put it “That’s because you HAVE!!” The bright side is that I am surrounded by HOLIDAYS!

The fall in India is pretty much 
a nonstop party of Holidays set to a 4/4 Anthem. Literally. Sometimes multiple occur within the same week. Indian children get some crazy 80 days off of school a year due to holidays, the majority of which are in the fall. The only one I have really celebrated thus far was Ganpati. This festival celebrates the end of the monsoon season and the god GANESH. That is the one with an elephant head for those of you wondering. It ends up with a HUGE parade to the river with EVERYONE (literally) parading floats from their neighborhood (or what they call “society”). This then spurns a lot of loud music, some awesome costumes, and odd overly homo-erotic dancing in the streets. (Mauricio and I attempted to partake and where pulled into the throngs of dancing young men and then flung like ragdolls from gent to gent. There was flailing, some grinding, and awkward eye contact. Needless to say, there were many cultural questions to be had after.) But Dawali, THE FESTIVAL OF LIGHTS, starts this week. I have no idea what I am about to experience, but I know there are a lot lanterns, fireworks, and I got a little dish that I get to burn things in oil. (cue the childhood pyro in my smiling from ear to ear.)

Two weeks ago I had a great trip to Mumbai, where I got to take part in our first Production Meeting. Pretty much: this is where all the creatives and producing entities get together to discuss how EVERYTHING is going to get done with the musical. There have been a lot of debates back and forth, but I think we are getting a handle on how we will actually travel the show. I have been in cahoots with Julian Crouch (google his name because he is just awesome) talking about Sets and Puppets—because it has to look grand, for relatively cheap, but needs to be made of found objects that we can pack in a bag. AND, I spent 6 hours collaborating on costume designs with my new friend Simi Nallaseth, a designer on the movie ICE AGE. Yep, that Ice Age. I feel like a kid in a candy store of creative awesomeness! Anywho, we are trying to make the difference between the Kingdom of Light and the Kingdom of Dark in our musical very natural shapes and colors vs. industrial stark materials. (GOOD VS BAD with a mix of postapocalypse thrown in). For example, here are the first renderings for the King of Light and the King of Dark.
Notice how EKRAJ’s head looks like prayer hands and is based on a Parssi priest?

And notice how GARV’s body is made of recycled industrial objects? My favorite bit may be GARV’s gown made of all old leg XRAYS.



And then last week, I had the honor of attending and teaching a workshop at the “inspirED” conference here in Pune. I met a great man who has saved over 100,000 kids from child slavery, a woman experimenting with pilot program of Health Education in Mumbai, and a lady who is tackling the topic of universal INCLUSIVITY for women in Indian culture. What awesome people!  In the next couple months, I will also travel to 4 other conferences around the country defending why Music Integration is crucial to the academic success of all Indian children.
Its interesting because recently I have been reading a book about the death of Goddess worship called “The Chalice and The Blade.” Its disappearance and my fellow Man are the reason why our society is so violent and war driven. (I had started it originally as a means to elaborate an idea I have for a show I want to write). But in the workshop I co taught with my new ASTEP friend Andrea, I state that art is love. But more importantly MUSIC IS LOVE. The first sense you use in life is the sense of hearing. We hear the sound of our parent’s voice, whatever music they may play us in the womb, and the sound of our mother’s heartbeat. Our sense of hearing is so crucial that babies born with irregular heartbeats have 4/4 music placed in their incubators to resync their heart. Crazy right? It is literally the RHYTHM OF LIFE. And for me, music is the most peaceful and equalizing thing in the world. It knows no religion, no race, no sexual orientation, no social status, and is truly the great I AM. Therefore, MUSIC is the most powerful weapon in the world. And as Moises Kaufman (The Laramie Project) said in a workshop I attended at The Kennedy Center in April, “All Art is Political.” The fact that Justin Bieber could be political makes my blood boil but think about it: our societies have only ever changed for the better when music (art) has intervened and led the people to want to change. No wonder those in charge (and those who want to remain) don’t want the arts to be open to more walks of life. They then dream of a better life and fight for it. The Arts=oppression gone. And, in the US at least, being artsy is considering something for ladies and girl boys. But guess what, it is pure love. It is the only place I ever felt I could be who I wanted to be and not who others thoughts I should be, this was for my smarts or my artistry or simply just me. And, it is a trickle down from the generations of Goddess worship that came long before the Greeks.  (cue me pulling out the Pagan Goddess statue made of lava I bought at a garage sale in 6th grade that is still in my possession). No wonder I haven’t really been able to relate to most modern men in my life…I love the ladies. And I love peace. And I love equality. And I can’t imagine a life without music. Wild how life connects itself that way right!!! (I feel like I just entered a tangent equivalent to that of my father and have no idea how to get out so cue the nonsequeter).
Two weeks ago, on Gandhiji’s bday (that is how Gandhi is referred to—the “ji” is in respect to his ideals), the kids decided to experiment with their Design For Change project by bringing joy to the most trafficked thoroughfare in all of Pune. So on MG Road, we spent 3 hours walking up and down the street doing theatre, music presentations, miming , and giving out what I was shouting were “JA DOO KEE JAPEE!” FREE HUGS. But really, the translation is THE MAGIC OF HUGS. Needless to say, I excited some and scared others. But, the hugs my mom has passed on to me for years finally got passed on to the people of Pune. And let me tell you, we made a lot of smiles happen. I even unintentionally stopped traffic for a while and took some photos with some pedestrians. But then again, that could just be because everyone here thinks I look like a WWE wrestler. (perhaps the cardboard cutout I sent to my cousin Lindsay’s wedding as my stand-in was more insightful than anyone had thought). Wham. Bam. Good night Maam!

(I promise more pictures ARE coming soon. But, internet in these parts is hard to come by. So, I upload as quick as I can. Thanks for your patience on this journey.)